Aren’t those two words just brilliant together?!
Emotional Distance. If only I’d employed a little of that at the beginning of my alcoholic career, I might never have become an alcoholic in the first place. I might never have developed my emotional attachment to alcohol.
Oh well. I didn’t think to put those two words right next to each other 27 years ago.
Does Emotional Distance require the assertion of boundaries? YES – healthy ones. Does it require an arena of space and time? YES, but not indefinite. Does it require an ability to separate from? YES, but not to the point that It gets lost. So – who gets to define all these things? The people or the person involved.
I can use those words together in plenty of other areas of my life; relationships (with people or things), experiences, situations…etc. When I force myself to allow for some emotional distance between me and that – I can see it more clearly – whatever IT is. When I can see things more clearly, I’m better able to respond to or apply myself toward them more logically and appropriately.
Emotional Distance also allows me to react to something or someone without the reaction being saturated with feeling. That’s never appropriate. I believe that a solid mix of thought and emotion is the appropriate recipe for a well constructed presentation.
Isn’t that what we do in life? Present ourselves to the world? That’s what I’m doing here. I’m presenting a position.